Number 1 – They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things.

Yup. They see problems in every opportunity. They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for ruining their plans for the day. They blame the wind for ruining their hair. They think that everyone is against them. They see the problems but never the solutions. Every little bit of difficulty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy. They regard failures as catastrophes. They become discouraged easily instead of learning from their mistakes. They never seem to move forward because they’re always afraid to come out of their comfort zones.

Number 2 – They Act Before They Think.

They move based on instinct or impulse. If they see something they like, they buy at once without any second thought. Then they see something better. They regret & curse for not able to take advantage of the bargain. Then they spend & spend again until nothing’s left. They don’t think about the future. What they’re after is the pleasure they will experience at present. They don’t think about the consequences. Those who engage in unsafe sex, criminality, and the like are included in this group.

Number 3 – They Talk Much More Than They Listen

They want to be the star of the show. So they always engage in talks that would make them heroes, even to the point of lying. Oftentimes they are not aware that what they’re saying is not sensible anymore. When other people advise them, they close their ears because they’re too proud to admit their mistakes. In their mind they’re always correct. They reject suggestions because that will make them feel inferior.

Number 4 – They Give Up Easily

Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success. Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the first signs of failure. At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors. Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent people don’t have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams.

Number 5 – They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level

Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty trick to bring them down. They could have asked these successful ones nicely. But no, they’re too proud. They don’t want to ask advise. Moreover, they’re too negative to accomplish anything.

Number 6 – They Waste Their Time

They don’t know what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives. It’s perfectly fine to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed efficiently in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work & pleasure.

Number 7 – They Take the Easy Way Out

If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the wider road with less rewards than the narrower road with much better rewards at the end.
They don’t want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life. What these people don’t know is that what you reap is what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed. If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little, they would be much better off. Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary to achieve what they aspire for in life.

Buat saya, post ini bahan introspeksi diri. As a person and human being, saya sadar betul bahwa diri saya jauh dari sempurna. Kesadaran ini yang harusnya jadi alasan kita buat gak pernah lelah memperbaiki diri dan gak terus-terusan menyalahkan keadaan. Tapi ya, manusiawi juga kan kalau kadang lelah mencoba mengerti orang-orang di sekitar kita, compromise is two way approach…

Well, let’s hope kalo orang-orang yang baca ini, kalau ngerasa tersentil, gak malah jadi cemberut dan marah…tapi lebih positif dan semangat buat memperbaiki diri…

What’s going on after this seven…oh well…almost eight months since my last writing….Getting a grip on myself, adapting with the new job and new roles…new company environment….quite a challenge….yet I realize that I’ve learned and grown up myself over the experiences….

Membuat keputusan yang akan berpengaruh sama masa depan memang gak pernah mudah….Selama beberapa bulan ini, gw membuat beberapa…yang bahkan sampai sekarang masih suka bikin gamang, dan bolak-balik menimbang-nimbang, dan gw masih berusaha buat tetap membuka semua kemungkinan terbuka lebar…hehehe…

Pertama, pastinya memilih buat pindah dan memegang pekerjaan baru…Dengan kesadaran penuh bahwa mungkin situasi dan kondisinya mungkin tidak seperti yang gw harapkan….Well, everything’s under control when it comes to the job and assignment…but managing people will always be a challenge I guess…Di sini, cuma bisa menyabarkan diri dan ketawa-ketawa….dan gak terlalu mikirin orang…I’m glad that I did take the offer anyway….Cukup mengagetkan sih kerja 8 to 5, dan ada di rumah as 6 pm in the afternoon…dan gak bisa sevokal pada saat gw jadi konsultan kalo mengeluarkan pendapat…dan gemes sama birokrasi yang bikin segalanya lama…

Second…I got accepted for this year program in Groningen…however…mikirin antara mesti pindah kerja…menikah within the next two years…memulai karir lagi setelah lulus master…I decided even not to apply for scholarship…yang sampe sekarang masih bikin mupeng….hehehe….On this side, gw belajar bahwa memang kita gak bisa dapet semuanya at one time…Hidup indeed adalah pilihan…gak ada yang salah dan yang benar…We simply make our decision based on what we thought the best thing during the time we make our decision…Given, bokap akan pensiun dalam 2-3 tahun lagi….perlu memantapkan karir dan menabung buat menikah…mungkin giving up my master dan memilih buat konsen kerja dulu adalah keputusan terbaik yang bisa gw ambil. Sekarang sih, mencoba buat apply2 lagi tahun depan dan cari scholarship…semoga udah bisa dapat school leave dari kantor…. Dan when the time come, let’s see kompromi apa lagi yang perlu dibuat, when we decided to get married….

Well…keinginan buat apply2 S2 di luar ini, juga usaha buat bikin kemungkinan tetap terbuka…sementara memantapkan hati buat menikah…hehehe…You know, gw gak pernah memikirkan buat that much co-existing with someone….talking to him for my every thought….missing him everytime there’s something reminds me of him…meskipun selama pacaran ini udah gitu siih…But to be honest, the commitment and responsibility of being someone’s wife kinda freak me out…Gak tahu juga, kalau pengalaman-pengalaman terdahulu bikin gw jadi terlalu menganalisa segalanya dan jadi lebih hati-hati, atau takut buat melangkah…Well being with him makes me happy…but I simply don’t want to make it the only important thing for me…

Currently….semua orang lagi gantian gak enak badan dan capek…after deadline from group yang baru selesai…Gw lagi kesel sama orang yang simply gak punya ownership sama kerjaannya…gak bisa diandelin dan missing many small yet important thing to do…But then…selalu teringat pesan Bapak gw…kalo kita selalu mencoba memudahkan hidup orang lain, akan dibalas dengan banyak kemudahan juga dalam hidup kita….Hal-hal kecil kayak gini yang bikin gw ngerasa so blessed…bahwa meskipun gw pusing dan uring-uringan, I have a very warm and supportive family to come home to…Meskipun capek…tiap weekend ada aja temen or sodara or famili yang harus dikunjungi, ada acara or minta tolong…gw tahu kalo gw butuh, they will be there to…Dan I could do something for others…

Life is so colorful ya….Enjoying it much…dan mencoba untuk be thankful for even the smallest blessing given by God….Alhamdulillah…

Takut…ke mana hidup akan membawa kita…

Bisakah kita bertahan dengan ego kita…..

Waktu…..Jarak…..

Percaya kata kamu….kalau tidak…semua percuma…..

Tapi siapa yang tahu ujung jalan kita…….?

Cinta…..sejauh mana….

Doa…Doa…Doa…

Cuma Dia…Yang Kuasa…..

Karena aku dan kamu adalah milikNya…

aaarrgh….mungkin ini hanya efek kangen dan datang bulan…lagipula, seperti dia bilang…saya ini orangnya mudah khawatir…dan ribet karena segala sesuatu diurusin dan dipikirin…

Tak yakin ku kan mampu
Hapus rasa sakitku
Ku ‘kan selalu perjuangkan cinta kita
Namun apa salahku
Hingga ku tak layak dapatkan kesungguhanmu

My friends have a long-term relationship with his girlfriend…one of them have been in relationship for seven years…and the other has also been in more than five years old relationship. How do you endure with your life afterward…? The memories of your days together….?

In my humble opinion…not that I am highly experienced on relationship…a pre-marital relationship is a valuable chance for couple to try to take his/her spouse just the way they are…Lucky for me and for my boyfriend that we are the type of person which is not good at pretending, the way we react towards our problem clearly reflects our point of view. Over our arguments and disagreement, I personally think that it is essential to analyze his/her emotional temper and to ask yourself whether this is the person that you want to spend your life with…

Whether the long age of the relationship is also shown the hesitation of the couple to commit to each other…that it took them so long to move to the next level of relationship also came across my mind. Well…my current boyfriend brought me to meet his mom within months of our relationship…and we talked about our future plans in the early stages of our relationship…For me,  you don’t have to be rush to move into the next level…but to know the each person level of commitment and make sure that you are  reading the same book and not to mention in the same page of your relationship is important to build a strong foundation of marriage.  On this age…I don’t want to waste my time on a ‘not going nowhere’ kind of relationship…:p

I do believe that there is one people…that is destined for us…But maybe…just maybe, that it might be everyone that you met all along your life…It just depends on whether you both, at that time willing to do what it takes to make a lifelong relationship…Being match to each other personally is not enough…Since commitment and compromise is necessary all along the relationship…

Well…just a thought guys…:p

Counting numbered days

Lately
I think you know it’s true
That’s it, it’s all over, I’m through
For a while we can smile
For the people that we’re passing
And even if they’re asking
We can lie

Counting numbered days

Looks like the sun is gonna set
Know that there’s nothing I regret
All the things that I learned
Well I’d like to think I earned it
No need to go and burn it down now

Counting numbered days

- The Eels; Counting Numbered Days; The Switch-OST-

Sudah lewat seminggu dari hari ulang tahun dia….Gak kerasa, sudah dua tahun sejak masa-masa itu berlalu…Back in the town…a hotel room on which I hoped I could go back to…to give you a birthday kiss that you deserved…It didn’t have to be a kiss from lover…but might be as well as your best friend back then…who admired you much for your mind brightness and thoughfullness…

My Unintended, aku nggak tahu, apakah kamu masih suka berkunjung ke blog ini…Since I didn’t write often lately also…Tapi aku masih berharap, kamu masih mengingat aku…Yes…I still care about you…despite things that you’ve put me through…Aku bersyukur bertemu kamu…Learned many things from you…and the thing that we’ve been through…I am content where I am now…especially on the term of relationship…Dan saya berharap kamu juga bahagia…Let’s pray for each other yaa…

I’m walking through streets that are dead
Walking, walking with you in my head
My feet are so tired, my brain is so wired
And the clouds are weeping

Did I hear someone tell a lie?
Did I hear someone’s distant cry?

I’m sick of love but I’m in the thick of it
This kind of love I’m so sick of it

I see, I see lovers in the meadow
I see, I see silhouettes in the window
I watch them ’til they’re gone and they leave me hanging on
To a shadow

I’m sick of love; I hear the clock tick
This kind of love; I’m love sick

Sometimes the silence can be like the thunder
Sometimes I feel like I’m being plowed under

Could you ever be true?

I think of you and I wonder….

Karena aku sayang kamu….

Gak pernah (belum) lelah buat kembali mencoba……

Mencoba percaya…kamu akan memberikan yang terbaik buat kita….

Saya lelah mencoba mengerti dia….Saya tahu saya sangat sayang sama dia….Saya yakin itu….

Saya juga yakin dan percaya…kalau dia sayang sama saya…Sampai pada titik di mana saya gak tahu lagi apa yang bisa diharapkan dan bagaimana caranya agar dia mengerti….Bahwa saya butuh dia…

Saya nggak minta dia telpon saya 3 x sehari….atau dia sms saya terus menerus….Gak minta dibawain bunga….dinyanyiin lagu romantis….Tapi saya perlu merasa penting…Saya butuh ditanyakan kabarnya…butuh diperhatikan…butuh didengarkan……

Saya kangen dia yang dulu selalu menyempatkan diri telpon saya sesibuk apapun dia…beberapa menit setiap hari itu berarti banyak buat saya….Kangen dia yang menggenggam tangan saya dalam perjalanan mengantar saya pulang….Saya kangen kunjungan spontan dia ke rumah saya di Bogor…

Saya mencoba mengerti kesibukan saya dan kesibukan dia….Kepenatan kami bekerja…Tapi bukankah waktu kami berdua seharusnya menguatkan kami….Saya bertanya-tanya….adakah rindu di hatinya….Saya gak mau minta….Karena saya mau dia melakukannya karena dia mau…bukan karena saya minta…..

Saya gak tahu lagi….bagaimana caranya menyayangi dia seperti yang dia mau….

Empty is…when I don’t see you for weeks…..When I have so many things to do….while I was walking in the dark….

Hey sunshine…..promise me you’ll be fine…After all of those works is done….I need you to be my strength….

Genap satu bulan….Kita gak ketemu…..Saya pergi keluar kota selama dua minggu….Lalu kesibukan audit akhir tahun itu menyita hampir keseluruhan waktunya……Keadaan saya tidak jauh lebih baik….3 hari jatah libur saya tersita sehari untuk persiapan presentasi kepada prospective client….Menyita 3 hari waktu saya untuk menyelesaikan semuanya….Lalu another pre-sales thing needs to be handled….Menyisakan hanya separuh waktu saya untuk mengejar dokumen project dibanding yang lain…Well…with your team acting like shit….I really feel a very big urge to escape….

Damn….I missed him very much…..